Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless, afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.
Do we pay for the sins of narcissists? This is one of those seemingly hard-to-answer questions, and one that often shakes the faith of a believer who is looking for just a glimpse of hope that they’ll be okay and that the narcissist will get what he or she deserves. However, as time passes, many of us see them flourishing and enjoying life, victim, after victim, after victim. But, let me encourage you to open your mind and pray for understanding because everything is not as it seems, but you must have faith if you want to overcome this part of your healing journey. When I asked this question of myself, God led me to the answer in His word which He always does if I take the time to pray and ask Him to give me an understanding of life.
What we really want to know is why God allowed them to get away with wickedness, and why it feels like we’re being punished for our sins and their sins. These questions can lead us to obsess about those who trespassed against us and move outside of God’s will, taking vengeance into our own hands, because as we look at the narcissist’s life from afar, it seems like they’re receiving no punishment, no rebuke, or no correction for the pain they’ve caused others. However, it seems like punishment, rebuke, and correction are ongoing struggles for those of us who love and fear God. Where is God? Does He not see the sins of the wicked? Why do they continue to hurt others? These questions can pile up and bury us in bitterness if we don’t take our thoughts captive.
So, in my moment of anger and discouragement, God led me to scriptures I know will encourage everyone struggling with a crushed spirit. This is a very sensitive time on your journey because you feel broken and humiliated, and you want justice. I believe you will receive justice, but in this moment that you’re in, God is molding you and disciplining you so you won’t fall into the traps of the enemy ever again. Hebrews 12:5-7 is a comforting reminder of the great work God does for those He loves: “And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?” Waiting patiently on the Lord and allowing Him to work in our lives takes a strength that can only be found in Him. We must hold fast to humility and reject the silent killer known as pride.
*Excerpt from the book: The Unspoken Truth About Narcissism: Something Evil At Work