And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.
If you watch videos on my YouTube channel, North of the Fray, then you know I am very much against silence when it comes to abuse. I not only speak about my experience with abuse, I also encourage others to do the same. Silence does not save lives, but it does protect abusers. I hope this chapter will empower you all to use your voices or write a book to speak about the abuse you experienced. It’s your story and you have the right to tell it exactly how it happened. If people wanted you to say something nice about them, then they should have treated you better.
It is our duty as children of God to expose the wicked, not for personal gain, but to warn others. Jesus always exposed the wicked publicly and even called them out by name, as He did the Pharisees when He referred to them as a “brood of vipers (Matthew 12:34),” and He turned over tables in the temples (Matthew 21:12) that perverted the work of God. He wasn’t afraid to speak up and call out evil where He saw it, and we shouldn’t be afraid either. Jesus’ fearless approach is a great example of how to stand up for yourself and others at the same time. When we refuse to call out evil where we see it, then it takes over not only our own lives, but the lives of those around us, as spoken of in Titus 1:10-13:
“For there are many unruly and vain talkers and deceivers, specially they of the circumcision: Whose mouths must be stopped, who subvert whole houses, teaching things which they ought not, for filthy lucre’s sake.
One of themselves, even a prophet of their own, said, the Cretians are always liars, evil beasts, slow bellies. This witness is true. Wherefore rebuke them sharply, that they may be sound in the faith.”
Narcissists must be silenced, not God’s children. We need to walk in the authority given to us and expose the darkness with the light of Christ. How can we expose with closed mouths? If we’re silent, are we not just as guilty of the crimes we pretend to not see? Sometimes exposing the darkness can encourage and empower others to stand boldly. You might be the mouthpiece others are waiting for.
Now, Jesus wasn’t the only one willing to call out the wicked, we know that most of God’s children referenced in the Bible were all faced with moments requiring them to speak up, especially prophets. Sometimes people wanted to run away in fear of retaliation, like Elijah, but they still chose obedience over fear. Paul, on the other hand, was not afraid and he was very bold with his words, much like Jesus.
*Excerpt from the book: The Unspoken Truth About Narcissism: Something Evil at Work
https://youtube.com/live/zfNBFflOsSo?feature=share (How Does Silence Enable Narcissists?)