When The Enabler and Covered Up For The Abuser

Abusers (Narcissists) often work in tandem with other abusers or enablers. They will marry, date, or befriend these people to help with their cover-up because they know these people like them and enablers are easier to manipulate and more willing to help with abusing other people. Epstein’s wife aided in the abuse of many innocent girls, so don’t be surprised if your offender teams up with someone who would allow them to do just about anything to them and others while covering up the truth.

Derek’s new girlfriend called me stupid for getting raped and pregnant (I miscarried alone) by someone who I claimed to be abusive. I can’t say she was wrong for that statement because it was a very stupid move on my part. I should have left when he TOLD me exactly who he is.

Jennie (the enabler/new person) encouraged her children and other family members to harass me on social media. She reached out to my boss with lies in an attempt to get me fired, and she worked in tandem with my abuser to hunt me down in an effort to intimidate me into silence. I’ve never met this woman and the only thing I know about her is what I looked up in the court system, hear-say from people who said they know her, and the display of her behavior.

Apparently, she’s known for this type of toxic behavior and will recruit younger people to help her do dirty work, including her own children. One of her so-called friends reached out to me to say she was sorry I was going through the social media attacks and told me the name of the young lady that was bothering me on social media, because I didn’t initially know her name (Kaiya Webb), and the name of her mother (Jennifer White). When I later researched the new girlfriend’s background in the court system, while I was under attack, I found out the father of her children was charged (along with two other men) with first-degree rape, and domestic violence against her, but she continued to have children with this man and enabled him to abuse her and her children until he died. Protect yourself with facts, write everything down, record everything, and tell the world about your abuser. You have the right to speak about it, and if others include themselves in your story, you have the right to speak out about that part too.

Note: The conversation below is nearly three years old at the time of this post. I reached out to Derek’s new girlfriend because, at this point, her daughter (and other family members) had been harassing me on social media, and now, she had unblocked me to continue the attacks. I didn’t fully understand what I was dealing with and I thought I could be a reasonable adult and ask her to stop. The text attacks that followed were heartbreaking at the moment because I didn’t know this person and had never spoken to her, but she hated me based on my abuser’s smear campaign. To be honest, I felt the same way about his ex when I was with him.

Here’s the link to the letter Jennifer White wrote to my boss: https://northofthefray.com/when-the-smear-campaign-comes-to-your-job?preview_id=1885&preview_nonce=7f13b56731&preview=true

She hoped her whiteness would be enough for her to speak and get a black woman fired from her job. She was entitled to write this letter and used her white privilege to attempt to hurt other people. This is typical narcissistic and racist behavior, however, it didn’t work in her favor because my boss was a black woman who had dealt with this type of behavior for many, many years, plus she witnessed my ex harassing me.