The Subtle Abuse

Often, abuse is so subtle you can’t see it when you’re caught in the thick of it, but you do feel like something is wrong. I felt I was dying inside, but I thought I was the problem (as I was told by my abuser), until I realized I wasn’t.

I left after he raped me 1.5 yrs into our relationship. The night I left, I was frightened, but I still didn’t understand I was abused. I had gained 30 lbs in one year, I couldn’t recognize myself, I was disgusted with the girl in the mirror, and I was so exhausted I couldn’t think straight. It was during this time he was tightening up his smear against me, so if I didn’t return, his guns were locked and loaded.

I didn’t realize I was a victim of abuse until my therapist told me straight forward “you were abused by someone you love, and he was grooming you to possibly kill you.” I remember sitting in her office balling. I loved this man who had hurt me, but I knew she was right. However, it took some time for me to let go of the idea that he could change and would never treat me right. Throughout the beginning of my healing, I begged him to acknowledge me, to care about the fact that I had miscarried a baby, to say he was sorry for taking advantage of me, but he never did.

In fact, he added other people (including his new girlfriend) into the circle to continue his dirty efforts to destroy me. It was only by the hand of God that I made it out with my full mind intact. He brought me through a terrible storm and I publicly thank Him for delivering me from the snare of the enemy.

#GetOutStayOut #narcissisticabuse #IDatedaSociopath

Please follow and like:

2 Comments

  • Janice Brown

    I believe this is me and I am praying for healing in me. I am really walking on egg shells and watching what I say or do not to get this person to be upset or angry for no reason. Everything is my fault and he says it’s my way to get a pity party. I’m having merry go round conversations and nothing ever gets resolved until I go silent and ignore everything he does. Now he wants to be calm and talk. Threatening me always and telling me how I can do anything BUT I have to tell him everything and explain everything when he don’t respect me and do the same. Controls money and tries to control all situations. I’m exhausted- days when I just give up and be happy to be safe is what I do. Pray, mediation, write journals makes me get some relief that I can not have a normal conversation with him.

    • LMoore

      May God give you the strength to choose You, as you walk away. You deserve peace and empathy. God bless you and thank you for sharing your time with me.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.